Contributed by Dr. Gleb Tsipursky, CEO of Disaster Avoidance Experts.

One of an entrepreneur’s go-to tools for business growth and success is the art of negotiation. However, because of the many nuances that affect each stage of negotiation, it can be a tricky skill to master.

Negotiators, even professional ones, make a surprising number of wrong decisions that doom negotiations which should have succeeded. Many such mistakes relate to overestimating how well they can read the feelings and thoughts of other parties in the negotiation, as well as the extent to which the other party can read their feelings and thoughts.

For instance, research shows that negotiators who sought to conceal their desires did a better job than they thought they did. In turn, those who tried to convey information to those they negotiated with about their preferences overestimated their abilities to communicate such knowledge. Other scholarship shows that negotiators with less power are more prone to such mistakes than those with more power.

Scholars call this erroneous mental pattern the illusion of transparency, referring to us overestimating the extent to which others understand us and how well we grasp others. This mental blindspot is one of many dangerous judgment errors―what scholars in cognitive neuroscience and behavioral economics call cognitive biases―that we make due to how our brains are wired.

Fortunately, recent research in these fields shows how you can use pragmatic strategies to address these dangerous judgment errors, whether in your professional life, your relationships or other life areas. 

Real-world example of the illusion of transparency

I observed a clear instance of illusion of transparency when an electric company brought me in as a consultant to mediate in failing contract negotiations between the management and the union. Both sides believed the other party to be unwilling to negotiate in good faith, asking too much and giving too little. The union demanded substantial wage hikes, strong job protection, and better retirement benefits; the management pushed back strongly on each request.

Quickly, I noticed that the illusion of transparency gravely inhibited progress. My private conversations with representatives from both sides showed that all felt they communicated their positions effectively, both in areas where they wanted to stand firm and where they felt willing to compromise. Yet these same conversations showed many areas of agreement and flexibility that neither side recognized.

Why didn’t both sides explicitly outline their positions thoroughly and clearly, so that the other side understood exactly where they stood? Because they were afraid that the other party would take advantage of them if they explicitly stated their true positions, including the minimum they’d be willing to accept.

So both sides tried to convey what was most important to them by arguing more strongly for certain points and less strongly for others. They believed that the other side would “get the hint.” Unfortunately, neither side “got the hint” about the other’s true priorities.

The importance of weighing priorities

I asked each side to use the decision-making strategy of weighing their priorities. After deploying this strategy, the union negotiators assigned first priority to increased job protection, second to better retirement benefits, and third to a large wage increase. The management negotiators used the same strategy and assigned first priority to no wage increase, second to decreased retirement benefits, and last to weaker job protection.

By clarifying priorities, the parties were able to find room for negotiation. The final contract included much strengthened job protection, a moderate boost to retirement, and a small wage hike at just below inflation.

The management appreciated the outcome, since it didn’t have to spend as much money on labor; the union membership liked the peace of mind that came with job protection, even if they didn’t get the wage hike they would have liked.

Key takeaways

The key takeaway is that in any negotiation situation, you’re very likely to be overestimating the extent to which you explained your position to the other party. You’re also probably too confident about how well you understand the other party’s perspective. The other party is most likely making the same mistakes regarding you.

An easy way to address these problems is to use the decision-making strategy of weighing your priorities and having the other party do the same. Then, trade off your lowest priorities against their highest ones and vice versa. You can come to a win-win agreement where both parties realize the biggest gains and experience the least losses.

As CEO of Disaster Avoidance Experts, Dr. Gleb Tsipursky is on a mission to protect entrepreneurs from dangerous judgment errors known as cognitive biases by developing the most effective decision-making strategies. A best-selling author, he’s written The Truth Seeker’s Handbook: A Science-Based Guide,  Never Go With Your Gut: How Pioneering Leaders Make the Best Decisions and Avoid Business Disasters and his newest book is Adapt and Plan for the New Abnormal of the COVID-19 Coronavirus Pandemic (2020).